Lynette shares a personal story about a trying encounter she and Natalia recently had with a good friend and her daughter, Stefanie comes in with a few news stories that she wants to discuss and our old friend Dr. Bruce joins us for all of it!
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Producer: Gary Smith
Sassy’s doesn’t respect her mom. Why Suzanne look into the future to see how big this nightmare is going to become? What she is doing is not love. Sassy wants her mother to step up, she wants boundaries. The test to see how much her mother will take are going to escalate.
Lynette, “Sassy” isn’t used to being called out on her behavior. You should not try to reshape her behavior in the limited time you spend with her. That is the job of someone who loves her, and while you say that you love her, it is obvious that you detest her behaviour. Undoubtedly, the child senses this and you shamed her. If you believe that she should be shamed into behaving in a more socially acceptable manner, I agree, but surely this needs to be done by a consistent caregiver, teacher, or parent who loves her and spends a great deal of time with her. You should heed this advice, because someday you will be somebody’s grandmother, and you will need to know your boundaries. The parent chooses the discipline strategy, if you disagree with the behaviors, you must go through the parent, not blame the small child for the behaviors which the parents created. To think you could just reason with her in the small blip of time you actually talk to her… especially when Sassy knows you dislike her.
I don’t know. I actually think Lynette didn’t go far ENOUGH. I remember when I was a kid and was misbehaving and my parents were being too lenient at the moment and some aunt or grandma stepped in with some sharp words to straighten up it really did snap me to attention because I was NOT expecting it. This is Lynette’s best friend’s child, whom she’s known since she was born – she’s practically family. Lynette should have some step-in-and-discipline rights, especially in her own house. It’s obvious Suzanne will continue to take the “Let’s go talk about your poor little feelings and why you’re feeling out of sorts” approach forever and this child will continue to take advantage of it, because why not? She’s being made to feel like she’s the boss in that family and how can she not love the feeling of so much power? She’s never going to change. At least Lynette MAY be able to change the behavior at HER house. I would have stepped in LONG ago with a “Hey! This attitude is not acceptable at my house and if you’re going to act like that, sorry, I’m going to have to ask you guys to say good-bye for today. Maybe next time we’ll see you in a nicer mood.”
This episode had me cracking up. I LOVE when Lynette and Stefanie get silly; seems like the last few episodes were too serious. I also really like having Gary step in and talk – it’s interesting to hear his opinion on a show done by/geared towards women/parents, and also since he works with Adam and all his guests.
This was a great show, I wish it was longer! The honesty in all the shows are really appreciated and hats off to you both for it. I heart Dr. Bruce and would love him to be on more often. I can almost hear his face getting red at times and its so funny!
Love this podcast! Lynette’s play date story seems like the story of my life – love the mom, can’t stand the kid!
I don’t have kids, but I have friends that have kids. And sometimes their children’s behavior makes me not want to be around my friends. To be fair it is not the kids it is the friend I can’t deal with that has created this problem. The mother just allows shit to happen that could totally be avoided with a little discipline. Short of getting into details. I know I will get tore up because I don’t have children but I am trying to let people know this problem is there and it effects many. I am on Lynette’s side where you just can’t take it any more. I don’t have any advice how to fix it. I am just saying this is my side .
By the way love the show have listened to them all.
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Lynette is absolutely right to be fed up with the ” fancypants” situation. The blame obviously lies with her best friend, not little miss “fancypants”. We have an epidemic of well meaning parents turning to jello when it comes to disciplining their children. Most of the problem is just pure laziness. Good parenting, like every other substantive valuable thing in life requires work, vigilance, consistency, patience, follow through, and genuine love. You must explain very clearly to your children what kind of behavior is expected & acceptable and what kind is not. Then explain the consequences of unacceptable behavior. Then, without exception, lovingly enforce the rules. Children learn very quickly that you mean what you say and will respect you for it in the long run.
Hi guys, I just listened to your latest podcast “Dr. Bruce – Part 1″ and I have to comment on Lynette’s story about Sassy and her mom. I thing a lot of Sassy’s problems could be addressed if her Mom began to understand her daughter’s limitations and not have marathon play dates. It sounds like there was a moment just before Sassy began to melt down when her mother should have said “Thanks for having us but it’s time for us to go home.” Any mother who sees their child realistically is able to recognize the signs that their child has had enough and is getting tired. ..I actually feel sorry for Sassy because her mother doesn’t understand her daughter’s personality, maybe she likes the melt downs? After all how much time did they stay sequestered in Natalia’s bathroom together dealing with Sassy’s issues. Maybe her meltdowns make your friend feel needed by her daughter. I think in the future if you decide to have play dates with Sassy you have to have a very clear end time in mind which you tell your friend from the beginning and which you both stick to.
It sounds like Suzanne’s daughter’s behavior issues are more related to her being an only child.
I see this with so many friends who one have one child and never force the kid to compromise or lose with grace. She should have never ever acted like that in someone’s home. It’s disgraceful. Regardless, she should have cleaned up, thanked you for having them and it’s time for us to go.
I have a friend with the same issues with their son, I think they’re just too tired to follow-up through on discipline.
Um, excuse me, but I have an only child – and I know others as well – who are way better behaved than a lot of siblinged kids I’ve known. It has NOTHING to do with siblings or not. It has to do with lazy parenting. Lynette said herself that Olga has one daughter who is beautifully behaved. Lynette probably hit it on the head when she said this situation probably comes from guilt over giving her a broken home, a working mom, whatever, and is trying to make up for all that by spoiling her.
Stefanie,
I have a male gynecologist, and I’ll admit that I was a bit skeptical when he was recommended to me, but he is THE best doctor I have ever had. I also found out soon after I started seeing him that he is gay, which made me feel a lot better. Haha.
Wow, Adam said Dr. Bruce had stacks of papers flying when he did his show.
The proof is in the picture.
Love, Love Dr. Bruce.
Thanks everyone for the great advice. I think we can all agree it’s the mother’s fault and up to her to discipline. Which is why I won’t be having any play dates with them anytime soon. I’ve spoken to Suzanne many times about her behavior and she’s aware of the situation. It’s going to take some time for her i guess to get it together.
More importantly thank you so much for all your support. It really means a lot to us! We enjoy doing the show and I’m happy you guys are enjoying it.
Love, Lynette xoxoxo
I think we can do without the stupid Dr. Spaz song. It is a waste of time as it is and to interupt interesting conversation to play it is BS.
I never had a vaginal orgasm until I found the right guy. Previous boyfriends were all well and good, but I always had to rub one out on my clit while we were at it. It kind of blew my mind when it finally happened, the first time I had sex with the guy I ended up marrying. Call it a g-spot or whatever, that shit is for real.
Dr. Bruce says part of it might be age, and if so, that’s awesome. I think having a partner with the right size/shape/motion helps too. Not every position can do it for me — gotta get the right angle.
Anyway. I love you guys and I’m laughing my ass off, and everybody else is commenting about Sassy and her sassy sassiness so I thought I’d add something about orgasms. Keep it up, ladies.
I have been listening since the beginning of this podcast. I have noticed a common concern of Lynette and Stephanie. Both of you are worried about raising your girls to be respectful, well mannered young women. I have a 23 year old daughter and a 27 year old son. And the key to success is getting them involved with something they are passionate about. Like ice skating for Natalia and theater for Stephanie’s girls. They will naturally make friends with their shared interest and those kids will tend to be good influences because it takes discipline to excel in their passion and keep up with their studies. My daughter became passionate about playing in the clarinet in 6th grade and advancing to a National Championship high school marching band and participated in the college marching band. She met great friends who all excelled in band and school. She never gave me one day of worry throughout her high school and college years. She graduated from Georgia Tech with honors last May and she is a fantastic young women. I credit this to the discipline of her passion and the friends that she surrounded herself with that had the same drive. (my son is also an excellent successful person but thought you could relate more to my daughters story)
I encourage you to support your kids’ passion and the rest will fall into place!
I just listened to the show with Dr. Bruce and was cracking up laughing at Lynette busting his balls lol! As for his knowledge of the female orgasm… I do occasionally enjoy anal sex and yes I orgasm from it. And also… My husband kept asking and wanted me to “squirt”. Well I had no clue if it was even possible so I took to the Internet to research. After reading up on it, we took our new found knowledge to the bedroom and tested it out. Well, to both our surprise it worked and he hasn’t asked me to do it again lol.
Wow I was really surprised I actually fell in love with this podcast. I’ve always been a huge fan of Loveline, Adam Carolla, and of course Dr. Drew. But it only took 1 podcast of you guys with Dr. Bruce, and I was sucked in…I love the raunchiness, mixed with the parental love its a great combo that male or female could enjoy. Keep up the great work ladies! Your husband will have a great competition down the hall way