Teresa Strasser joins ‘For Crying Out Loud’ this week to discuss her current (and 2nd) pregnancy. Lynette starts by apologizing for spilling the beans to Adam recently and describes how it occurred. After Teresa forgives Lynette the ladies launch into a discussion of possible names for the impending child. Dr. Spaz is back for the start of this episode as well and the conversation turns quickly to recreational drug use especially after pregnancy. Before Dr. Bruce departs Teresa brings up VBAC, or Vaginal Birth After C-Section and wants to hear Bruce’s take because that’s her plan this time around.
After Bruce departs Lynette updates Stefanie and Teresa on the Earth Day homework debacle & gets their opinions on whats they would do. This discussion transitions into a larger conversation about the regret parents feel after losing their temper when it comes to dealing with your kids. Finally, after a discussion about discipline and parents who won’t, the show wraps up with Teresa congratulating Stefanie on her new TV show.
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Producer: Gary Smith
I’ve learned two truths after raising 3 kids that seem to work in all situations. These tactics only work if you actually want to raise good human beings (some losers are too lazy, too stupid, or don’t seem to care).
#1: Always interact, praise, or discipline your kids as if you were in public and everyone can hear and see. We are always better parents in public.
#2: When disciplining your child, act like you’re an FBI agent. FBI agents never lose their cool, and they always act like they know more than you do. Black & white, cut & dried, cause & effect. Do the crime and you do the time. No emotion necessary.
Love the show
Interesting thoughts.
Great show. I love the three of you together. You have excellent chemistry, no one talks over the other. Bring Teresa back on a regular basis, I think she can fill in if Stephanie gets busy with her T.V. show. MIss you Teresa, I’m always glad to hear your voice on the ACE network.
I agree wholeheartedly!
Agreed!
Agree!
Great show? Poor Dr. Bruce seems to get roughed up on all the podcasts. I do love Teresa on the show…..Ok. Now I have to list ten ways I can help “save” the earth. #1. Get my parents to remove me from schools (virtually all public) that indoctrinate children with radical leftist environmental nonsense driven by a political agenda that masquerades as and detracts from… a real education.
I have two little boys and they like to try the meltdown trick on me. My best piece of advice for parents is never give in. Whatever your kids freak out about they will never get. Asking nicely and saying please will many times get them what they want. That is lesson I talk about all the time with them and it has really stuck. I am at the point now where I get compliments from strangers at the grocery store on how well behaved my two boys are. This makes me proud and keeps me smiling the rest of the day.
Show was very enlightening about the easy access to prescription drugs by well off people.
Why is it that drug addiction is fashionable among well off people yet our society labels poor addicts as “losers”?
If one of you ladies was ostracized by your friends – then I would bet you would not be addicts.
On the show, Dr. Bruce made a great point about self medicating with Opiates – But why does the medical community allow it?
The only thing you ladies agreed on was that when you become pregnant – then you must stop taking the prescription drugs or prescription high?
Does anyone else think this way?
Hope this gets posted – because you all discussed this topic for 15 minutes.
Keep up the good shows.
On that same thought – why do all the well-off moms who live comfortable lives, have paid help, and no real stress need all the therapists? How do we moms with a middle-class paycheck, no swimming pools to relax by nor Guetamalan women to clean up after us get through our days without prescription anxiety medicine, spa treatments and appointments with therapists? This seems like something Adam should be ranting about! I’m not begrudging rich people their success at all – but I wish they’d enjoy it rather than act like they can’t cope. Ah, IF ONLY I had the chance to have no worries about money, live in a nice big house and have kids that want for nothing!
UNIVERSAL TRUTH:
There will ALWAYS be somebody: Richer, Happier, Better Looking, Better Off, Smarter than you, Live in a Better neighborhood than you, Have a nicer Family than you, Drive a more expensive car than you.
Envy and “keeping up with your neighbors’ stuff / lifestyle” will always lead to stress- as that game never ends.
Therefore Therapy and Prescription Drugs are coping mechanisms that the body reaches for to alleviate the stress brought on by materialism.
“If one of you ladies was ostracized by your friends – then I would bet you would not be addicts.”
I sense you do not understand the nature of addiction.
Gary, I envy your ability to jump in the middle of a Three-Mom-Conversation at just the right time. Nice story about cancelled Disneyland.
Always glad to hear Teresa anywhere, but especially here with Lynette and Stefanie.
T, please stop feeling guilty about the day care thing! One of my almost three year old twin girls acts the exact same way, but she has never been to day care, and was breast fed for a year. She is anxious, gets upset and frustrated very easily, and cries at the drop of a hat. She obsesses over things (turning off lights, must have the same 7 stuffed animals at bedtime, etc). Her twin sister is not like this at all; she is easy going, and easy to handle. They have been on the same schedule since day one, and had the exact same upbringing. Just goes to show you how little we have to do with shaping their personalities. They are how they are!
I was starting to worry that she has some sort of disorder, but I have recently figured her out. I realized I was giving in to her way to often, so as to avoid conflict. So, I have started to be very strong and consistent with her. When she cries, I immediately put her her room for timeout. She doesn’t even get a warning. If we are out and about and she cries or gets whiny, we leave immediately. I have even left a cart full of groceries because she was crying. That was over two months ago and she has been an angel a the store ever since then. It is very hard to do this, especially when her twin and older sister miss out on the fun, but I know in the long run it will make things better for all of us. She hates being isolated from me, so she has learned that the crying leads to a consequence that she doesn’t want. She still cries every now and then, but she stops herself now. I have taught her to breathe (she blows on her finger) when she starts to get anxious. She will be three in June, so these tricks might not work on your two year old, but eventually it might help. I do think that things get better as they get older and are able to understand how they are feeling. But, the bottom line is that his personality is not something created by going to daycare, but is really just a manifestation of genetics! Harder to find a solution for, but it should at least assuage your guilt some. Sorry I’ve written a book!
My son is 17 years old–allow me to repeat 17 years old–and my eyes still filled with tears listening to T. I had a lot of the same fears and feelings, I suffered a lot for them.
**There was an almost-all-Della issue last year, too. I’d aoslluteby love to know why they do it like this.**I wonder if it’s to do with payment. Isn’t it 200 for the first page, then 50 for each page thereafter? If someone has more than one story in, do they only get the 200 once, then 50 for every other page, regardless of if it’s a new story?
Teresa, check out The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron and see if it fits Buster. It was a huge help for my family and it put my whole life in perspective. I love all three of you – great show!
Awesome show ladies! However I do wish just once the people that say “Suck it up, it’s not a big deal” would let us know when we shouldn’t. Like at what point does the silly over the top nanny state stuff go to far? Does it ever. It’s aggravating because it does sound like a silly thing to take a stand on but you have to decide at a certain point that enough is enough. Maybe?
Anyway, great ep!
I tuned in to hear Teresa, but found myself charmed by the whole show. I thought that the chemistry was great. I’ll be listening in the future, and I don’t even have kids!!
I always love Teresa on this show. Her compelling broadcast talent is undeniable.
Great show, love Teresa. I love the perspective of a working mom, who has to work to support her family and has to deal with daycare guilt. Thanks Teresa, it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
More Theresa, have her switch off with SWT if she is too busy with her TV show. T needs the work you need the help win/win.
Great chemistry, love SWT too, but if she is too busy that might be a great solution.
T stop feeling so guilty, your son is not being raised by wolves…you are doing your best and that’s more than most people venture to do. Stop fixating and keep writing you are a brilliant talent.