Lynette starts the show pissed off, and afraid for the lives of her children. She goes on to describe the epidemic of entitled kids, and details an argument that went down at the ice cream shop after school. The girls also talk about how being good at sports just means more time driving to practice, and Stefanie discusses some competitive family fighting over ‘Bop it’.
Later, the girls jump to some reality TV talk, and Stefanie talks about her husband saying she had to make a choice between watching American Idol or The Voice. The girls then watch a highlight performance from one of the shows. Stefanie also talks about her daughter’s involvement with the Girl Scouts, and why it’s turned into more work for her than it’s worth. As the show wraps up, the girls discuss Jersey Shore and share outrage over Snooki’s pregnancy.
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If you don’t want your child duplicating the behavior of a disruptive child, don’t let them play with them. The only thing you can control is the behavior of your own child. At some point children will need to be exposed to the real world and the flaws and bad behavior of other people. Until then, you have a few years to shape the behavior of your own child.
I think that sometimes the peer influence can go both ways. So if your daughter is influenced by her friends bad behavior, why not tell her to let the friend know this is bad. I have taught my son to use his voice, tell his friends if they are being mean or doing things they shouldn’t do. Apparently its working because they have a friend at school who is way to rough and my son and his friends have told him to cut it out. Just a thought….
I agree with Stevo.
I would suggest you guide your children toward children who behave better, even if their moms are boring. Hang out with the nice kids in the school for playdates.
I once read that you have to over correct behavior issues to eventually have the behavior move toward the average.
I wonder if they have any idea they are raising total jerks. I love that you are addressing right away, hope they hear the warning.
When I heard you tell the story of Natalia’s suck-y friend, it made me really angry for you. I helped raise my nieces and nephews and these things happen, bad influences and stuff. Maybe you could try these suggestions:
I say, Lynette, you should have more play dates with Natalia and her “good” friends more than the “bad”, but don’t make it a big deal. Also, if you do have play date with the “bad” friend, you could have it at your place and make it boring as hell while the “good” play date is fun. This way maybe Natalia will like playing with the “good” friend better.
good luck.
I understand your concerns of these entitled children! I see this ALL THE TIME in my community.
My son is only 6, but already asks me why he has to earn everything,. while his friends just “get stuff”.
All of his friends (we are in the OC) have Nintendo DS’s, IPODs, IPADS, etc…. and he is working on extra chores to save up enough money to buy his own (which he will also need to pay for his own games)
It’s a tough lesson, but I think it’s important to teach him (from even this very early age) the responsibility that comes with managing your money…
but, the one thing he never has to pay for and can always get, is books!!! Which has really promoted his interest in books.
As for not disciplining, I have posted about that before. I’m a tough parent, but my kid has a mouth on him that is pretty unstoppable… and a temper that can be tested by anyone, anywhere…. we work with him on this every day and I hope to educate other parents that sometimes (and I know this is the rare case), that it is not a case of lazy or soft parenting….so i guess i’ll just keep posting this here until you all read it and MAYBE have a show about kids with behavioral issues…
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My oh my, it must be nice that all of you have perfect children.
The question in today’s society is should you spank your children ? Dr drew and other so called experts say nooooo!!!!! you will create a bully. what a joke ,what is happening with kids today is they are spoiled rotten and disrespectfull…it’s a cultural thing “whitey ” is creating this super-spoiled hybrid with the over coddling,smothering attention ……is resulting in “ENTITLEMENT ATTITUDE” should you spank your spoiled brats? the answer is yes not beat them spank them ASIANS DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Very Beautiful pics!!! You both came out as naturals and the tqilauy of the pics are just amazing!!! Congrats again and can’t wait to party with you both on your special day!!!! Love ya!!! Sammie<3
Good for you, Lynette!!!! It must’ve been really frustrating having to be the one responsible parent in the group. But I don’t think it’s an epidemic. Perhaps this kind of parenting is more prevalent in L.A. among the richer, more laid-back parents. I live in a small town in another state (although I’m originally from L.A. and the more well-off kids I grew up with definitely had the over-indulgent parents) and the parents here I’ve known so far are all VERY up on the discipline and will not tolerate any of their kids mouthing off or being violent or out of control. None of them spank, either. Now, I do see out of control kids and checked-out parents around here, but they’re the white trash of the community. Could be a “rich man/poor man” thing?
Well, anyway, if you do know that certain kids in your child’s circle of friends are going to be like this, you should be pro-active. Avoid places like that ice cream parlor where people are expected to sit nicely and just eat. Perhaps get the ice cream “to go” and have a picnic at a park where they CAN get up and run around and act as crazy as they want? Good luck!
If the teacher addresses the whole class & not just Maven for that behavior, Maven won’t learn. It’s like Adam said, “first you get shamed, then you learn.” Not that Maven has to be singled out in front of everyone (although that would be nice and maybe then she’d really learn), but if you don’t address the culprit directly, the behavior won’t stop.
This happens to me all the time, ONE person does something wrong repeatedly, the whole group gets told to not do that thing, and the person that does it never stops doing it cuz they think, ‘oh it can’t be me doing that!’ So the reminders keep coming and I wonder what person keeps doing it that EVERYONE has to be reminded, and I think ‘what an IDIOT!!’
Jessica Sanchez did a WAY better job on that song than Jennifer Hudson. WAY
Ha Ha Stefanie I really liked when you asked Lynette if it was aliens. You are hilarious.
You should do a whole show on the epidemic of entitled children. I see it among both low-income kids (you have an iPhone but you are on free lunch program?) and among wealthy kids (why is your 2yr old playing in the middle of the floor of the dance studio w his DS and everyone is stepping around him while you have your starbucks – really.) I think this is why that Tiger mom book last year really struck a chord – parents need to put boundaries in place. How else do kids learn impulse control? Is this how bullies are formed? They do what they want, and act out without any repercussions?
An Entitlement story to share: We went to Disneyland yesterday (and btw, first thing my husband and I said was, “wouldn’t it be cool if we saw Lynette here with the family?!”) and we were at one of the stores in line behind a “celebrity” and her husband and little daughter, maybe 3 or 4 years old. While we were waiting to be helped, their little girl started shaking the box of toys on display next to the line, almost knocking them over and having them all fall and break….and so then the celebrity came over to her, and we thought for sure was going to stop her from doing that unacceptable behavior. Instead, she just watched her for like a minute shaking this box and smiled with like a dazed look on her face, and said, “ok c’mon, let’s go now…” in a annoyingly sweet motherly voice. WTF?! I thought,, “Realllly?!” I was just about to say be careful” or something to her and thought FOR SURE the mother would handle it. I couldn’t believe it! She had no awareness, and no balls, letting her kid do whatever she wanted. Who knows why, because she is a “celebrity”, or because she’s “rich” that she can afford the broken box of toys, but GIVE ME A BREAK!
OK just had to share. Lynette, I feel the same way you do. I have two daughters, 4 yrs and 1 yr old, and strive to instill gratitude and compassion as I can even in their young ages. Entitlement is def starting to be an epidemic and needs to be nipped in the bud before we are all eaten alive.
Love you ladies and the show…and Gary too of course
Thanks so much 
!
I see it all the time and it is frustrating as hell. But I make no bones telling another parent their kid is behaving in a rude, obnoxious or even unsafe manner. Not that my kids are perfect, nor am I, but the things we have been aiming for as parents are consistency in discipline and boundaries. And I will say, that when my kid’s friends come over, or are in our presence, they know what to expect, and how they can behave. I set expectations, communicate clearly, and treat them with respect. I expect the same in return. And if we cant make that work, fine, go away. None of us have time to deal with extra BS. Are some of these issues cultural? Maybe. Geographical? Maybe. This happens every where. Remember when we were kids, if you acted up when you parents were not around, there was always some adult friend who made sure your parents knew you were being a turd, and you got an earful. Now, we are hands off, passive aggressive, or we are told “you cant tell my kid what to do”. Guess what: if we are breathing the same air, and your kid is stinking up the place, I can and will tell them what I expect. It has been one hell of a learning curve, and I have been involved in my kids lives with coaching, scouts (ugh), and a work schedule that has kept our kids out of daycare. But even the turds I came across, who thought I was too tough or mean, actually came around and appreciated the respect and boundaries. One thing I dont hear enough about, it the mental health of the parents. The depression, addictions, whole woe is me crap (been there) that we fail to address or take into account. If I hear one more parent say “I dont know what to do with little $hi7head” I will stab them in the eye with my Starbucks swizzle. I have been listening to this show since its beginning TPE days, and have been through so many of the same things. How about having a non-celeb guest on the show? Thanks, Art
STW:
Parental Discretion pilot for Nick Jr? to quote a line from 30 Rock,I will “Benjamin Buttons ” myself this was picked up? (catching up on your show)
LC and STW:
Did you know Greg Fitzsimmons, slipped on his own David Wild podcast , calling FCOL the “Parent Trap”?
Talk about subcontext.:)
STW:
Parental Discretion pilot for Nick Jr? to quote a line from 30 Rock,I will “Benjamin Buttons ” myself this was picked up? (catching up on your show)
LC and STW:
Did you know Greg Fitzsimmons, slipped on his own David Wild podcast , calling FCOL the “Parent Trap”?
Talk about subcontext.:)